There has never been a time in history where those of us lucky enough to be born with a roof over our heads and enough food to eat, have been so free to follow our hearts, live life the way we want to, do what we love and play to our own rules.
We now have the possibility of being the artists of our own lives.
In theory it sounds wonderful, but in practice most people don’t seem to know what to do with this new-found freedom.
Suddenly being told the world is your oyster, that there is no map, you get to find your own way, you can create your own life is as terrifying as it is exciting.
Freedom is the thing we all dream of and then when we have it, we don’t know what to do with it.
The main problem is we lack the tools and the practices that we need to chart our own course in life.
We weren’t taught in school how to connect with our deeper selves, to value our own dreams and we were never told that we could be our own fairy godmothers and bring our dreams to life.
So we’re having to learn these skills from scratch as adults. And as a coach it is a topic I find endlessly fascinating.
What has been a real focus for me over the past couple of years is how to get people dreaming from their core and not their egos.
A problem I kept encountering was that some people were really mastering the art of dreaming and bringing those dreams to life and yet they weren’t feeling any happier for it. In fact if anything they were feeling worse. Their lives were now looking fabulous on the outside, but feeling empty on the inside. I realised that the problem was that they were dreaming from the ego and not from their deeper selves.
Happiness and fulfillment only come from living a created life when you’re taking cues from the heart and soul.
So for the past few years I’ve been studying and experimenting with different ways that people can connect to that core and create from there.
I’ve found that it happens when people are fully absorbed and engaged in doing something that makes them forget themselves, gets them in flow, has them come alive. Stretches them and has them able to continually go further and keep meeting that ‘edge’ where they learn about themselves and their capabilities and step beyond what they previously thought possible.
I see it happen through art, writing, dancing, martial arts, yoga, meditation and music (there are of course more but these are the most common).
Everyone has a practice that works for them. It’s a matter of finding it.
One of the most accessible and popular is yoga and this week I’ve been having the opportunity to really see it at work at the Chaya Yoga Retreat – New Beginnings – where we’ve brought yoga and life design coaching together. We felt pretty confident that a yoga retreat would be the perfect environment to get people dreaming from their core and it’s wonderful to see it actually happening.
It’s amazing to see the way yoga opens people up and connects them to their core – reminding of them of who they are and what they’re all about, the beginners just as much as advanced practitioners. They’re flourishing, connecting with themselves more and more every day and making my job very easy as I work with them on bringing forth the dreams and changes they want to see in their lives.
So my message for you today is if you’re trying to find a new path in life, feeling like you don’t know what path to take, longing to feel happy but don’t know what will do it for you, then find your practice. Find an activity that makes you come alive, helps you to go in deep and connect to your core, reminding you of who you are and what is most important to you in life when the soul is in charge.
Then go and make the time to dedicate yourself to that practice because it’s from that core that you want to grow your dreams and create your life.
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